ajwa

dealing with a loss is hard as it is.

having people around you tell you to get over it and stop wasting your time on the past is even harder. imagine what that’s like.

after a loss people don’t understand that it’s not easy to just ‘forget them’ and erase their memories within days, months, or years even. it takes time.

and even then, those memories will not be erased but slowly not occupy the person’s mind and not bother them as they did before. 

people become afraid after a loss of a loved one, and start to assume that everyone else in their life will leave them as well. they start to assume so much based on small actions and put so much effort into new relationships hoping they too, won’t leave. 

if you know someone who’s lost someone in the past, take care of them, treat them with the love they need because they don’t know if they’ll see another day with you or not. they’ve lost enough as it is. help restore them and let them know that you’re there for them and you don’t plan on leaving in the future.